Nita Marie

Nita Marie is a women’s empowerment coach who focuses on helping women release their inner goddesses by tapping into their sexuality and pleasure center. She is also the author of the book “The Sacred Butterfly: How I Unveiled My Authentic Self Through Faith and Sex” and owner of an animal sanctuary. You can find all of her content on her website nitamariecoach.com.

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Intro Song

Rob Valincius: Happy freakin Memorial Day. I mean, not so happy for me because, uh, as I was discussing with my lovely guest here, I have COVID for the second damn time. Uh, but, but you know what? It doesn't, it doesn't slow me down. However, if I do, like, zone off, it's not because I'm drunk. It's probably because the, the COVID is, the vid is hittin my brain. but

Nita Marie: thank you for still doing this.

Rob Valincius: Of course. Yeah. I wasn't canceling on you. You, your, your stories, your story is great. I had to have you on. Um, so this is the drink o'clock podcast. I'm your host, Rob Valencius, and I have the pleasure of having with me, Nita Marie. Now, Nita, you got a lot going on here. You're a women's empowerment coach.

Uh, you're also an author and, uh, your book is called the sacred butterfly. How I unveiled my authentic self through faith and sex. And that just came out in the beginning of February. So welcome to the podcast.

Nita Marie: thank you, excited to be here.

Rob Valincius: What did you do for the, for the holiday? Anything fun?

Nita Marie: Well, we went to like a little festival here and then we went up to my property, um, which is something else I have going on, which is my animal sanctuary, um, up in Woodland Park, Colorado. And so we were up there, um, hanging out with some of our animals, did a little barbecue. So that was really fun. Yeah.

Rob Valincius: that, that's all. Yeah. We'll definitely talk about that. Cause I'm, I'm a big, I'm a big animal guy, but, um, let's, let's get into like your background story and you could, you could get in as in depth as you like. Um, but you know, when you're. All online, right? You know, you're, you're very much online, and I'm sure you have a lot of fans, and you have a lot of people that are interested in your work.

Um, A lot of times they don't really know how you got there and who you really are, right? Um, and I always like to start this way because I feel like you have a really unique story with your rags to riches, you know, type of stuff. And, um, you know, like I said, I don't want you to go crazy and ruin your book because I'm sure, I do, I, I, anyone that I have on the show, I promise you I'll buy your book.

Because, uh, you know, uh, one, you gotta support people, um, the creators. I love authors as well. Uh, but at the same time, uh, you have a pretty unique story. So tell me a little bit about, um, what got you to where you are

Nita Marie: Thanks. Well, as far as why I started modeling, Um, I went through a divorce about six years ago. Um, yeah, actually close to seven years ago. And I was really in one of those relationships that I kind of call asexual because we weren't having sex. And when I got out of the marriage, I really wanted to get back in touch with my sexuality, back in touch with my, um, body, really feel more empowered.

just physically and emotionally. And so I started modeling again, which is something I did in college and I did very well. And so I started modeling again, just for my own self. But then as I started doing it, I really started to gain a lot of interest and a lot of followers on Facebook. So I really just started on Facebook, um, without doing anything nude or anything.

But then as I started to grow, um, um, You know, I started to get some of the haters on Facebook because I was really just posting on my regular Facebook. Like, I wasn't thinking it was gonna get as big as it got, you know? So I started posting on my personal Facebook some of my, you know, boudoir photos and I went from being like very conservative on Facebook to all of a all of a sudden posting pictures of myself in lingerie.

So you can imagine people being a little shocked. Um, but I was really just like in this self discovery mode because anyone who's ever gone through a divorce, I think you can probably relate that there's something I call the divorce crazies, where you do like all this stuff that you never were doing when you were married that maybe you always wanted to do, but you just never did.

Right. And so that's kind of what I did. And, um, so once I started to get a little bit of hate, I then was like, okay, maybe I should separate it. So now I'm just going to have just a page just for my modeling. So once I started to do that, I get, I started getting tons of fans and, um, I thought, well, I'm doing this for free and I'm a single mom and I kind of need some money because at this point I had like, yeah,

Rob Valincius: we all.

Nita Marie: of need some money and, um. I was doing less with my other job because I wasn't like as emotionally invested at the point of going through my divorce. So I decided to start OnlyFans. Um, but you know, I was fortunate enough to start it right before the big COVID boom. You're talking about COVID.

Like that was like kind of what started OnlyFans was COVID because

Rob Valincius: rush. It's

Nita Marie: it was, it's like the gold rush of Onlyfans. So people were on Onlyfans, but they didn't really know about Onlyfans until COVID. I was fortunate enough to have started my modeling, had a whole bunch of content, had, you know, a social media following, had a lot of things in place.

So when COVID happened, which is about six months after I started, um, I was able to be a part of like that COVID boom. So then that really catapulted me, um, to make, you know, the amount of money that I'm making now. So that was just a little bit about me. So it's been about, so May is actually my five year anniversary on OnlyFans.

Rob Valincius: congratulations. Congratulations.

Nita Marie: Thanks. It's exciting. So I'm still here.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, my, um, my, my wifey, she, she did only fans. She has her only fans up. And,

Nita Marie: That's awesome.

Rob Valincius: with, with her thing, what she was doing is, you know, a lot of her content she was posting for free, just like you on Instagram and things like that. So she decided, oh, well, you know what? I'll, I'll also do that. I'll, I'll take advantage of, um, you know, kind of putting it.

Into an OnlyFans area and she had some pretty cool stuff Where she was having like a free chat day Where she would open it up where people could chat with her and stuff. It was uh, it was it was interesting

Nita Marie: That's cool.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, yeah and stuff like that so You know, I always tell people man you get it You're gonna shake what your mama gave ya.

Um, you know, and, uh, You gotta do what you gotta do, especially in this world. Um, if I was a woman, and I could do it, My ass would be doing it. Now, I know there's plenty of guys, uh, you know, Uh, on there, but that's, uh, You know, I'm too much of a, yeah, It's a little different. I'm a chubby dude, You know, I don't even wanna see myself in the mirror, Let alone, uh, you know, Payin having someone pay me to do it.

Nita Marie: that's so funny.

Rob Valincius: You know, you gotta love it, but, so, You know. What has your, uh, your experience been over the past five years with OnlyFans? Um, you know, have you, have you seen any, any, I, I know just from experience, uh, the wifey, we were talking about this before we were getting on and, uh, she, one of her questions to you was like, what's one of the crazier things that you've gotten a request for?

Cause someone, I think asked her to, uh, they would buy pictures of her poop.

Nita Marie: Oh, I know. That's so gross.

Rob Valincius: And it's like, she's like, I am not doing that, but

Nita Marie: gosh. Yeah. Well, there are some crazy things for sure. Um, but.

Rob Valincius: hold on. And I don't want to judge because everyone's into their own thing. Right. I mean, what's crazy to me is someone else's kink, right? So like this is, I'm not trying to judge anybody. The poop thing's weird. I don't like poop, let alone having it on me. That's just, that freaks me out a little bit.

Plus two from a sanitary thing.

Nita Marie: It's gross. Yeah.

Rob Valincius: But there's there's guys and they you know the feet thing I don't get because I I mean, I'm not a feet guy myself, but You know, what's some of the crazier things you've had people ask you to do?

Nita Marie: Yeah. Well, the most recent thing that I think is so gross. kind of weird, but I'm not judging it. I just think it's a little out of the box, is when guys have a fetish of being eaten.

Rob Valincius: Interesting, okay explain explain

Nita Marie: so they have this fetish of like me actually starting to eat their limbs and starting to eat them alive. So I have to pretend like I'm actually like eating part of them and talking about how yummy it is.

Rob Valincius: Wow, I was not expecting you to say that I thought the poop thing in my head. I'm like, I don't know if she's gonna top that. That tops it. That's some, uh, That's some interesting shit. I actually interviewed a guy. He was anonymous And his kink he was big into the giant fetish

Nita Marie: Well, see, it's similar to that. So it kind of goes in the same thing, the giantess thing, where it's usually the giantess eats the little man. Like that's, and then I just got a request for a guy to eat his wife. So like, he wanted me to eat his wife and pretend that like I had eaten her wife and like, show my belly nice and full.

with his wife. It's like surprise with where these things come from. I'm like, I didn't even know that was a thing until I started getting requests for it. And there's some things that are against like terms of service with OnlyFans, but those are not, but like the pee and the poop stuff is against terms of service.

So they have to go to a different website for that.

Rob Valincius: Interesting I didn't I didn't know the pee and poop thing was not okay on

Nita Marie: Yeah, it's actually against terms of service. Like we can't do any of that. Okay. On actual Olding fans, we

Rob Valincius: Cheers, by the way. I don't know if you're drinking. Uh, I didn't

Nita Marie: I'm drinking, uh, Jimmy John's

Rob Valincius: All right, I'll take it. I'll take it.

Nita Marie: Okay. Um, so yeah, they also don't even really allow like, uh, body bodily fluids. Like it's okay for a guy to come, but it's not okay for a girl to like squirt.

Like, they sometimes will flag that. Yeah, it's weird. So, it's awkward that they don't allow any bodily fluids from, like, women, but then they'll allow, like, know, cum from men.

Rob Valincius: Interesting.

Nita Marie: Yeah.

Rob Valincius: because you would think, I mean, all right, if we had to put a number on it, I mean, I'm sure I could probably Google it. I mean, all of their highest earning people out at the top 10, you'd imagine 60 to 70 percent are women, right? I

Nita Marie: But yeah, of course.

Rob Valincius: than three or four guys in the

Nita Marie: No. Yeah.

Rob Valincius: I'm sure there's one or two at least, because there's, there's definitely women, I'm sure, right? But it's a, it's a woman dominated platform. Um, so it's, it's, it's weird to me, but you know what? I mean, that's just kind of how I think politics in general is right. So like I work in insurance, um, and, uh, more specifically Medicare.

So I deal with older people and look, older people like to fuck man. Like, like older people still throw it down. So like,

Nita Marie: Oh my gosh.

Rob Valincius: what's typically covered on insurance plans is stuff to get a guy hard, right? So your Viagra, your, you know, whatever the, I always forget what the, um, the generic form of it is. But.

That's covered, but for the longest time, um, you know, obviously as a woman, as you get older in your 60s, 70s, you don't, you don't generate the wetness

Nita Marie: right, right.

Rob Valincius: typically need. So there's actually, uh, there's creams for women that will help you with that. And almost no plans cover it. And if they do, it's like tier 3 or tier 4, it's like a higher tier drug.

And it's like, that's kind of fucked up, man. It's like,

Nita Marie: That is, that's totally messed up.

Rob Valincius: But this is the world we live in, right? It's, it's kind of a sexist world, which is, it's a, it's almost a male dominated world, but behind every strong man is an even stronger woman. I say that all the time, but that's just honestly, like, look at all the presidents, look at all this stuff, like, there's always gonna be that woman in the background, and I think it's, it's gotten better.

We've gotten a lot better

Nita Marie: Well, and honestly, I feel like OnlyFans is actually changing it for the better for women. Even though there's going to be plenty of women that say, Oh, you're just putting us back in time because you're sexualizing yourself for money. I totally get that, right? But what's the number one thing that's going to empower women?

is it's having money. Like that is what is really going to empower women. Because if you have money, you can make different choices for your kids. You can, uh, you know, decide what schools they go to. You can be in different neighborhoods. You can choose not to be with like abusive husbands. Like there's so many things that having money for women changes.

That that's what I focus on, even though like the vehicle could be seen as. Us kind of not respecting ourselves in my mind. I'm like, you know what? It's just, it's just money. Like it's just a vehicle to empower women financially.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, and I mean look there's I also think it's a good thing because you know your kinks your things like that I think it's better To have an outlet to for some people and at the same time. It's it's it's also more natural To and you know look I don't know, you know, how it works, but I know a lot of the top creators and OnlyFans, they have, they outsource their, their reach, right?

Where it's like, these guys are sending the messages, but they're not the ones responding, right?

Nita Marie: Mm

Rob Valincius: that's a known thing. But, I do think it's nice when, when you have people that do Run their own account and they're talking to these people it helps I think that the men on that side where they're developing somewhat of you know of a Relationship with what they're sexualized to if that makes sense like it's better than just going on Pornhub and just you know Going down the rabbit hole of jerking off to random shit and and you know You get your fix and you're done, but you do get a bit of I think of more of a personal experience Which for some people that's all they want is Someone to

Nita Marie: that's the whole reason I started, really, OnlyFans is so that I can build a relationship with my fans, you know? And I always told people when I would get judged for it, I would say, like, this is almost Like, I am providing a service for these guys. There's a lot of guys that just want someone to talk to that are lonely, you know, that are not with anyone for multiple reasons and they need someone to talk to, like

Rob Valincius: Yeah,

Nita Marie: they weren't, huh?

Rob Valincius: or their religion where it's, it's frowned upon to, to, for stuff like that. It, and, uh, look, I always tell people, um, I, if I could do it, I would. And I think anyone, like, if you're listening to this and you're a female or you're male, whatever, and you were on the fence about it, or you're thinking about it, or maybe you dipped your toe, just do it, man.

Well, there's, there's. This is not a judge free zone here, okay? Especially if you can make some money, you know? Um, You're, you only live once, you know? Fuck it. And, and obviously for you, it seems like you took the reins after, after your divorce, right? And, um, is that what, you know, So what spurns your, your book?

Talk a little bit about that process. Um, how did it come up? Um, you know, what type of topics do you discuss? I know a lot of your, what you embody is, is, uh, empowering women. So, you know, talk a little bit about that.

Nita Marie: Yeah, well, because I was in a marriage for so long that wasn't really that healthy, um, sexually, it was, it was kind of one of those things that we didn't have sex for a long time. But then before that I was kind of sexualized, if that makes sense, in the marriage. So, like, I wasn't, like, who I was wasn't really valued.

It was just, you know, I was pretty of course and had, you know, nice body, whatever. I think that, I think he really wanted more of a trophy wife than really falling in love with who I was. So

Rob Valincius: Yeah.

Nita Marie: once I started just like really getting in tune with my own body and my own sexuality, And what I liked, I started to get in tune with like, actually who I was like as a person, because I think so many times as women, we're not really taught to embrace like who we are.

We're taught to look a certain way. We're taught to, you know, have a certain type of body. Like if you have big boobs, you're going to get more attention, you know, quote unquote, if you're blonde and you know, you're tan, you're going to get more attention or you're going to be, you know. more valued. And so like in general, women aren't really taught to like really love who they are.

And so for me, I learned that by getting more in touch with my sexuality. And the only reason I was able to get more in touch with my sexuality was because of OnlyFans. I don't think I would have done all the things that I did if I didn't actually really need money.

Rob Valincius: Yeah.

Nita Marie: I really needed money. Like I was like broke.

I had like 20 in my bank account. I'm like, crap, I got to do something. Cause uh, otherwise, you know, I'm not going to make it. And you know, when you're 40 years old, you don't want to be asking your parents for money. And I was, you know, and I was a single mom. I didn't want to have to put my kids in daycare.

I didn't, you know, have another job that was going to give me as much money as OnlyFans. So I was really kind of forced to do some of the things that I don't think I would have done otherwise. But because I did it, I really figured out like, what do I like sexually? Like a lot of women never even give them a chance, give themselves a chance to be with another woman, like, or to have an orgy, or to have a threesome, or, you know, to even certain things that you're doing to masturbate.

Like, what are things that you like? A lot of women never even explore that, you know?

Rob Valincius: What's taboo, right? I mean, it's, um, you know, I mean, for me, I always, I always think of the vagina kind of like Pandora's box. Like, uh, it's a beautiful thing. I, don't get me wrong. The vagina is the best thing on the planet. Dicks are abrasive. I always say that. I, like, dicks just scare me, okay? I could

Nita Marie: they scare a lot of women,

Rob Valincius: Yeah, shout out, shout out to my gay guys. You know, I love gay guys, but seriously, I could, I couldn't do it. It would scare me. It would scare me too much. Um, but, uh, you know, I think with, um, with empowerment and all the things you're talking about, it looks different for everybody to. It's not like what one size fit all.

Nita Marie: Yeah.

Rob Valincius: um, I think women have been so conditioned That it's one size fit all to a certain degree and um, the people that I've talked to that I've had on the podcast, um, that have explored their sexuality. It's, it's, it's just a different experience for the rest of their lives once they know what they want and what they're looking for and what they like.

Um, and that's different for everybody. Everybody

Nita Marie: Well, and a lot of times it's like a fantasy until it actually happens. Then when it happens, it's like, Oh, I actually don't really like that. Like I thought I liked that, but I don't actually really like that. And so I think that. I don't think I would have pushed the envelope as much as I did sexually if it wasn't because I was doing it for my work, you know?

And then once I started doing it, I realized what I liked and what I didn't like.

Rob Valincius: Yeah. I mean, it's, it's like, you know, uh, what's, what's the, It's like the age old thing of, of anal, right? We actually had a, we actually had a set of friends where it was his birthday every year. It was the only time that they would do anal. But that was like, that was like their thing as a

Nita Marie: Yeah. Yeah. That's so funny. Yeah.

Rob Valincius: I always thought, I always thought it was funny, you know? But, I mean, I did anal with my ex. And, I mean, it's cool. Right? I mean, there's, there's nothing wrong with it, but it's like, it's something you have to like, work into, you know? It's not something you could just be like, alright, let's do it. It's like, alright, well, you know, here's the pinky.

And then, you know, like, it's almost like you got to step into it, especially for someone that's never done it before. Um, but you also have to be prepared for things too. I mean, you know, like if you get a little bit of poop there, you, you,

Nita Marie: Hahaha!

Rob Valincius: just shit you're not going to think of, I mean, right. I mean, but it can happen.

So like, um, porn, I think, uh, it's to a certain degree, they don't, they don't show, we can really happen to a certain degree either. Right. Yeah.

Nita Marie: Right, and that's why I say, like, that's why for some guys, you know, you may want to just keep it as a fantasy. Like, don't ruin the fantasy by actually doing it. You know what I mean? Um, because another thing that a lot of guys would be like, is like, Oh, like, my fantasy is to be in the middle of, you know, five women, you know, and just be like, kind of, you know, you know, being seduced by five women.

But then a lot of times when a guy actually gets in that situation, they totally like freeze and they just get intimidated because they're like, Oh my God, I'm with five women. And then they get like all self conscious and then they might not feel like they could actually perform. And then it turns into this whole thing psychologically that they're not even aware of when it's a fantasy, you know?

Rob Valincius: Yeah, one, one is enough for me. Um, you know, uh, I don't know. I don't know if personally, like I'm sure in my head, I'm like, oh, that would be great to have a threesome, right? I don't, I don't know. If I could handle it, it's like, I honestly, I don't know in my head. I'm like, yeah, it'd be great. But you think about, you're like, I don't know if I could handle something like that.

I would

Nita Marie: Like, emotionally or physically?

Rob Valincius: I'd say both. Um, you know, but we've also, you know, me and the wife, you've been together for a long time. So we both know, you know,

Nita Marie: Each

Rob Valincius: how to get each other off, you

Nita Marie: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Rob Valincius: It doesn't need to be like an an hour long thing. It could be if you want it to be, but we both know our spots and that's just kind of is what it is.

Um, it doesn't mean it's any less fun, you know?

Nita Marie: Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally.

Rob Valincius: Um, but it's, it's like, I don't know. You know, I think that those are the certain things, like when you, when you're a guy, it's like, yeah, having a, you know, a threesome, anal, some of those things. And it's like, until you actually put yourself in that situation, you're like, oh, uh, this isn't what I imagined it would be.

you know.

Nita Marie: Well, and then also you don't realize the jealousy that can go with it. So like, for example, um, you know, my hu my husband and I, we've been together for like six years now, but we um, thank you. So, um, we were kind of exploring different things and I. Because I've done a lot of scenes with women, um, I was like, you know what?

I think I'm gonna let you do a scene with another woman. Like, this is someone that I like, and you know, she's a friend of mine, but she's also a content creator, so I totally trust her, you know. And he's like, well, are you sure you're going to be okay with this? He's like, are you sure you're not going to get jealous?

And here I am like, Oh no, I'm not going to get jealous. Like I'm going to be fine. It's going to be great. Like maybe we can really start doing content together. I'm like so excited. Blah, blah. And then, um, When he, when he did it, it wasn't even like a full scene. Like, he didn't even get like, super excited about it, right?

Like, we didn't even, he didn't go through like, all the way. But it was just what he did do. I immediately started going into all these stories in my head. I was like, well, I don't even want you hanging out with her afterwards. Like, I don't want you spending time with her. Like, you better be leaving right away.

Like, I just started coming up with all these things. I'm like, where is this coming from? Like, this is obviously jealousy. And I was someone that I didn't think would be jealous at all, because I understand how this business works. Like you go in and you do a scene and you're done, right? Like you're not having any feelings really for anybody, but I didn't realize that I would get jealous, you know?

So that's what I think happens when you're trying different things is like with that threesome, you don't know if you'd be getting jealous because maybe your wife is getting into whoever else you have, whether or not it's a girl or a guy. Right?

Rob Valincius: Yeah, I, I don't, I'm not a jealous person, but I don't think I would be okay with it. I, I don't think so. But, I mean, I, I guess I don't know unless it happened. You know, um, but I, you know, a lot of my guy friends would always be like, hey, like, you know. Yeah. Kudos to you, I wouldn't be able to do it. And I would just go, what are you talking about?

And it's like, cause she's modeled since I've, I've known her. She's

Nita Marie: Yeah,

Rob Valincius: you know? Um, and I knew that going into it. And, uh, you know, she's a Sagittarius, so I don't control her. She does whatever the fuck she

Nita Marie: yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Rob Valincius: jealousy, but I think that's just a human reaction to certain things.

But for me it's always been, you know, you do what you want, you're your own person. I'm not gonna try to control you in any way. If you wanna do that, go for it. If you wanna do that, go for it. And I think, um, you know, that's only made us, you know, kind of stronger. As a couple, because you know, all of a lot of her other boyfriends or people she was with would try to control her to a certain degree.

Um, but it's weird because my friends are always like, I don't know how you do that. I don't, and I'm like, what are you talking about, man? Like, you don't know how I'm dealing with it. Like it's, it's her life, you know? Like if she wants to do it, like where, where do I fit in now? If it's like. It You know, if, uh, she was doing like, you know, maybe full on porn and then, you know, I I I tried to change it, or I wasn't okay with it but I It's like, I knew going in what she did.

And I think a lot of times, people aren't ready for it. Phys

Nita Marie: Yeah.

Rob Valincius: You

Nita Marie: And you, I do feel like there's different levels of what people are okay with. So there's some people that would not be okay with someone even posting sexy pictures on Instagram, right? Like they wouldn't be okay with cleavage or anything like that on Instagram. Then there's some guys that wouldn't be okay with, you know, having an only fans page and doing, you know, nudity and doing, you know, masturbation videos.

And then there would be some guys that are not okay with, you know, that like would not be okay with me doing a video with a woman. There's some guys that would be okay with me doing a video with a woman, but not doing a video with a guy, right? Like

Rob Valincius: Yeah.

Nita Marie: there's a, did I freeze? I don't

Rob Valincius: No, you're good. You're

Nita Marie: Oh, okay. I'm like frozen on my screen, but if you can see me, I guess that doesn't

Rob Valincius: It's So a lot of times when this records, it records way better than what it's showing you. Um, it, on my screen, you're good though.

Nita Marie: Okay, as long as you can see me, that doesn't matter. Okay. So anyway.

Rob Valincius: golden.

Nita Marie: Oh, thank you. So, yeah, so that's what I would think is like the difference is just that different guys are okay with different things and Couples not just guys but couples themselves, you know, and that's something I've had to work on with my husband too is like You know, what are we okay with?

And, you know, I am actually a lot more open sexually than he is. And so like, I've had to kind of amend some of the things that I was comfortable with just for his feelings. Right. And, you know, I've been, I've been willing to do that and we might then, you know, change it again. So it's like, it changes all the time.

And it's just a matter of like riding the wave of like what you're both comfortable with at the time. Right.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, I, I, I, I think I, I fit a lot of those. Like I could probably deal with a lot of that. The other guy thing, I don't think I could, I could never do. I, I wouldn't be okay with that. I, I couldn't do it. I couldn't do it at all.

Nita Marie: You're gonna do that. Yeah.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, I could, I could do it. I already know in my head. Nope, not, not

Nita Marie: No, no, not gonna happen that.

Rob Valincius: Um, so talk a little bit about the stigmas behind, uh, women and their sexuality. Um, you know, and obviously whether you're older or younger, there's stigmas there. Um, how does that impact them throughout their life?

Nita Marie: Well, I feel like the hard thing for women is that it's like normalized that a guy is going to just naturally like, jack off. Like, you know, they just are like, okay, you know, teenager, teenage boy, you know, he's going to do that. You just have to accept it, whatever. But then if a girl is doing it, like there's something wrong with her, you know, like, then she's like this, Slut or is this like, you know, addicted to sex or something, you know,

Rob Valincius: Yeah, yeah.

Nita Marie: you know, just like that idea of like, if a woman's doing it, it's gross, it's dirty, there's something wrong with her.

But if a guy's doing it, it's just normal. And we just know that a guy's going to do it. You know, I just think that's part of it is that, but then the other

Rob Valincius: up.

Nita Marie: Yeah, it is. Yeah, it is. Yeah. But then it's also part of what the woman actually being comfortable with it because there's a lot of women that like, I know this is going to sound kind of funny, but like never even touched their vagina.

Like they're not like, they're like disassociated from that part of their body. You know what I

Rob Valincius: That blows my fucking mind, cause I know as a guy, it's like, I still remember the first time I masturbated. Like, I was, I didn't even know what the fuck I was doing, I'm like, oh this is great. You know, it's like, uh, and I think as a guy, every guy listening to this is like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I know what he's talking about.

You know, it's like, but like, I, I understand that, that makes sense, but it's still fucking wild.

Nita Marie: I was, well, I was sitting one time at a nail salon and I was watching, um, Dr. Oz. So Dr. Oz was talking about how, when a woman has, um, a consistent orgasm weekly. that she will age less. So, like, orgasms basically were the key to anti aging. And, um, one of the nail techs, she's like, you know, Asian.

She's in her 50s, maybe 40s. She's like, well, I've never had an orgasm. Yeah. But you would be surprised. There are so many women that have never had an actual orgasm.

Rob Valincius: That, uh, look, here's, here's my thing. The wifey goes first every time that's how it works and cuz cuz I'm I'm pretty straightforward. It's a straightforward thing

Nita Marie: Yeah.

Rob Valincius: You know and I said this before on my podcast. I interviewed a an awesome lady Ruan Willow. She's a She's a She kind of writes, um, adult books and things like that.

And, um, I said it's the one thing that I've learned in life. You get the girl to go first, then you, you, you, you can kind of go at your own pace. If you want to go in 30, go for it. If you don't, you know, you could go. But most of the time, it's, it's, you know, it's a solid minotaur and you're, you're good. But you, if you're listening to this, you fucking get the girl to go first. You'll have the, you will stay together for a very long time. If you just are a pumper, you go in and you're done. You're, you're fucked,

Nita Marie: yeah,

Rob Valincius: You got to take care of the woman.

Nita Marie: And I'm glad you're saying that because I don't think a lot of guys really even think about that. I think that they think that if they're, you know, getting off on a woman, that it's actually fully pleasurable for a woman, but it's not like a lot of women cannot have an orgasm. First of all, in like five minutes, like guys can, it's like 20 minutes of buildup, right?

And a lot of guys don't want to take that time. They're not wanting to actually like, get the girl ready to even have an orgasm because they're wanting just to do their own thing. But that's why a lot of women don't. And that's why a lot of women aren't happy sexually because they're not, you know, having that.

Rob Valincius: That's just crazy. It really is.

Nita Marie: cause it does make sense because I've had so many friends that. That's their sex life, right? Is, you know, their, their husband having sex with them, but not, like, having sex, like, almost to them, not with them. You know what I mean? You

Rob Valincius: of a chore.

Nita Marie: Yeah, yeah.

Rob Valincius: yeah,

Nita Marie: And then you wonder why women aren't having sex.

And that's why they're wondering why, like, they're always turning the guy down, right? Because if it was just always about my husband, I would definitely be turning him down a lot more than I am. You know what I mean? Like, if it's always about him, Like, what, what's in it for me, you know? Yeah.

Rob Valincius: too many, unless you're watching lesbian porn, right?

Most of the time, if it's a guy girl porn, it ends with the guy going. It doesn't, like, the girl's kinda going through a while, but that's not what they're focused on. It's always the guy. So, um, I

Nita Marie: they know that the men are what, yeah, that's because they know the men are mostly the people watching it, right? They're like, well, we're going to gear this towards men because the men are, like, who's watching it the most. Um, But I'm sure that's kind of changed over the years though. Like it definitely is changing.

Like women's sexuality is definitely becoming more of a thing as we talk about it. And that's why I think OnlyFans is more, you know, accepted because it's like, I don't know, like it's taken three or four years for it to become more normalized, but it's not as big of a deal for me to say I'm an OnlyFans model now as it was even just like three years ago.

Rob Valincius: It's true. It's true. And, um, you know, I think the, um, The sex work trade, or you know, whatever you want to classify it as, has always been really kind of looked down on, I think, up until pretty recently. I think the OnlyFans boom, um, during COVID really did have a huge impact on

Nita Marie: it did on it being more accepted. I will say there's still a lot of hate with it because There's going to be a lot of resentment, like on the male side too, um, for all these women making so much money. So like even, you know what I mean? So even though it's like, um, been good for women, I think there is some resentment to men that are like, how is she making all this money?

And I'm like going to my regular job that I hate every day. And here she is like making thousands and thousands of dollars. So there's actually like a whole anti OnlyFans movement out there from men that don't want to keep giving all these women their money, you know? So there's like that, but then there's also women too, that are resentful of it because they're trying to, you know, make money in a different way.

I think that people just have a perspective that being an OnlyFans model is easy. I think that's the thing that is like, um, Really the hard thing against us right now is that people think, well, if I showed my boobs online, I'd be making thousands of dollars too, you know, but it's not like that. There's so many beautiful women on OnlyFans that are not making very much money at all.

And it's just because they're not marketing it the way they're supposed to market it and they don't have the work ethic to do it eight to ten hours a day. You know what I mean? So it's like you're not just flashing boobs online and making, you know, a thousand dollars a day.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, I mean content creation just in general is not as simple as, as a lot of like, you know, um, when I started this podcast, I was, uh, I was streaming video games and you know, I was, I wasn't making much, but I was making like 150 bucks a month just streaming video games. And I mean, I'm a nerd, so playing games is like my stress reliever.

So like, You know, it's just something I was doing and you know, I I was okay at it and um, I think it's kind of the same avenue and I can really agree because you have to always be on when you're, when you're doing your content. Um, you know, and, and I was talking to the wife, he's like, are you sure you're going to be able to do this episode today?

And I was like, I'll be fine. I was like, uh, and I have a podcast. Every day this week, which I

Nita Marie: oh wow.

Rob Valincius: of the time, because I'm a co host in some other podcast. But most of the time I try to keep it to three a week. I do like Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. And I keep it like middle of the week. Because you always have to be on.

You always have to be smiling. You always have to be engaging. You always have to bring something to the table. You can't just like turn on your fucking camera and some lights and be entertaining. It's just not how it works. And I couldn't agree more with you. I'd imagine it's even worse. Harder for you because not only do you have to be on but you have to build relationships with people who let's be honest.

I mean Maybe you don't want to necessarily build a relationship with them But they're your fans and that's who that's who's paying you money, right? So like there's gonna be days where you don't feel like doing it, but it's your job. So it you know, um, you know, I think One question I have personally is, how do you always just like, like, I've, I've seen your Instagram, you're always smiling, you're always bubbly.

How do you, how do you keep that persona alive and, and, and, um, like, do you have a routine to kind of defrag yourself? I'm a nerd, so my degree's in IT, but like, you know, do you take a bubble bath? Like, what do you do to kind of like get, you know, wrench yourself of some of that? The internet's a horrible place, you know, and people are always fucking awful, no matter what.

Nita Marie: Yeah. Well, I, I'm glad you asked that question because that's a lot of what I focus on with my BAP group is I focus a lot on, um, content creators keeping their energy high, um, because I know that part of what So the reason that this helped me be so successful at the beginning was because the content I was putting out there was high, I call it high vibe content.

Meaning, if you're high vibe, you're gonna be attractive to other people. You know, you're gonna get people that are like, Oh wow, I really like what she's putting out there. Because the energy you're putting out there is high vibe. If I'm, you know, wearing myself thin, and if I'm not taking care of myself, then the content I put out there is going to be affected.

So a huge part of what I try to tell or teach women in my VIP coaching group is how to, fill their cup up, like how to take care of themselves energetically, how to make sure that their needs are being taken care of so that they're not wearing themselves thin because, um, that's going to affect their content really.

Um, so like I try to, I try to teach that, but then I also try to do it myself. Sometimes I'm not as good as I could be, but you know, I think I even underestimate how much energy it takes, like, I have done in the past, like I'll do like two Instagram lives and then an OnlyFans live all in one day. And then like two coaching calls.

And by the end of the day, I'm like, Oh my God, what was I thinking? Like, that was like way too much energy going out when I have to be on that whole time. Like there was no downtime. So like, if you think about a content creator, It's kind of like an athlete like an athlete cannot be doing those things that he does like in a football game all the time He's got to be practicing.

He's got to be taking care of his body. He's got to be, you know Exercising but he's not playing his best every day And that's how we have to do it when we're creating content is that there might be only one or two times during the week that we're actually creating content. And the rest of the week we're preparing for those things, um, mentally and physically and doing other things that might fill our cup up.

Rob Valincius: It's important and I, you know, I tell people, um, you know, obviously with a interview style podcast that I have, right?

Nita Marie: Uh huh.

Rob Valincius: I have to have some, I don't do this podcast by myself, right? I have to have someone else with me. Um, and I, I've made it, it's, and I won't fucking record then if this, if this happens. So for me, I can't, I can't do two interviews in the same day.

And it's because, and maybe you can equate this to like how you do yours, it's almost like I devote a lot, like I did a lot of research on you. And I devote a lot of, of, uh, what I'm going to talk about today, my mindset into you. Because this podcast at the end of the day is about Nita Marie. If I were to interview someone after this, I feel like I would be I wouldn't be on my A game because I'm so tuned in to what you do and the topics we're talking about.

And, uh, until you really get into the content creation space, you don't really think about that shit. And I tried to do when I was, when I was, you know, I'm over two years doing this. When I started in the beginning, I would sometimes try to double up and like, I just wouldn't be on my A game that second, that second interview.

I could feel it. I wouldn't be invested. I

Nita Marie: Right. Right. And then like for me who I know I have ADD, I'll start thinking about like all this other stuff. I know you said you have it too, I think. So I'll be

Rob Valincius: yeah, yeah.

Nita Marie: Oh, what's going on? Like tomorrow, uh, maybe I should check my phone. Like I just know my brain has hit its limit.

Rob Valincius: Yeah. It's, it's a real thing. And, and, like, if, if you're a content creator listening to this, you, you gotta, you do have to take breaks. I think some people don't realize, like, you do need to, like, I call it defragging. Like, you just need to shut down. Think about something else. Cause like, you know, I'm always on.

So like, you know, I do all my own interviews. I come up with all my own questions. I do all my own marketing. I do my own, my, all my own video editing and audio editing. I do all of that. So like, I'm always doing something for the podcast and like when you own it and you really love it, it's your baby. So, but you, when it's, you know, your baby, it's the same thing if you actually have a baby, right?

You're, you're, you're putting all your fucking love and attention into that thing. You do get burnout. So like, um, it, it is important in, in my opinion to be able to, uh, just know your limits. And, uh, you, you learn it as you go through it. You know, I'm sure there's been times where you kind of like hit that point.

You're like, okay, I'm never doing this again. It's like, I know.

Nita Marie: well, I got pretty stressed out when I opened up my VIP coaching program because I before I started my VIP coaching program, I was just focusing on content. So I was just a content creator. I was just focusing on my fans. I was just focusing on doing content for my fans. And then I opened up this coaching, uh, coaching program that nobody else is doing on OnlyFans.

So for example, there's nobody that does what I do, which I'll actually do like 12 one on one phone calls with a model for three months. And so she gets 12 hours of coaching with me and I started that. And I had so many people interested. I grew really fast and I was doing like five coaching calls a day and doing my content and being a mom and taking care of my animals.

And I was like, I cannot do this. Like I did it for a year and then I'm like, this is not working out. And so I had to cut back on how many phone calls I'm going to do a day, you know? Just for my own mental health so I definitely agree with that like you have to know your limits But sometimes you have to like get to that like max point before you know what your limit is.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, but we're all, at the end of the day, and I'm not telling people, like, don't do certain things, right? We're all hustlers.

Nita Marie: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah

Rob Valincius: money off this podcast. It's more of a hobby, it's like, yeah, I could drink on a Tuesday, you know? Um, but for me, it's, it's, I don't care if I ever make a dollar from this.

Because, I just love talking to new people. People from all over the world and people with all different types of things and experience and shit they do and for me It's just kind of like fun. I've met some really cool people. I've I've made I've made friends with people I've interviewed and like you know So it's like and I'm sure you feel the same way like I see I see you people fucking on your Instagram that I They show up randomly right there people you've met that you would have never met If you if you weren't doing what you're doing, and I think there's there's a cool aspect You To, to what you do, um, and, and content creation, it's not just about how good you are, right?

Because I'm sure there's only fans models that are like the best in the world, but you, you have to network, you have to collaborate, you have to make friends with people because at the end of the day, you never know when it's, it's going to be your time or when people are going to, uh, really invest in your content.

And, you know, you have to network. I think people think like, like, Other people that are doing what you do are like your competitors. And yes, in a way it is. But no, it's not. And your dog is so cute, by the way. Hehehehehehehehe

Nita Marie: He's being funny because he wants

Rob Valincius: Are you a Beatles fan? Ahahahahaha Awwww

Nita Marie: I didn't even know how they came up with Ringo, but he's my, he's my child.

Rob Valincius: he a golden retriever?

Nita Marie: Yes,

Rob Valincius: Oh my god, look at that dog.

Nita Marie: I know. He's a baby. Yes. So,

Rob Valincius: other buddy back there? You know, we can't leave him out.

Nita Marie: well, I have like four dogs.

Rob Valincius: Ha ha ha ha ha!

Nita Marie: I have Mochi. So Mochi's down here. Let me see. She's kind of fat. She's a corgi.

Rob Valincius: Oh, I love corgi butts.

Nita Marie: That's Mochi. That's Mochi. Yes. So we got her with Ringo. There are only dogs that are not like, you know, the rescues, obviously, because they're purebreds. Then we have Tizzy and Molly. So, haha, it's a full house.

Rob Valincius: Let's, let's like lead this into a little bit about your animal sanctuary. I got to know, um, what, what made you start it? What gotcha? I'm telling you, if my wifey, if we had a little bit of money, we would do the same fucking thing. If you ever need a manager, you let me know. I'll give you her information.

Nita Marie: yes,

Rob Valincius: leave.

Nita Marie: yes, right?

Rob Valincius: We love dogs. You know, dogs are like, they're so innocent. Um, and they're just, there's something special about, and, and look, you cat owners out there, I'm not the biggest cat fan. I love kittens. Uh, but dogs, there's just, there's something about being a

Nita Marie: They are, they're so lovable and there's all they want to do is like, you know, obey you really, you know, they want to please you. Um, and yeah, I

Rob Valincius: think there's a little something there for you there. Anita

Nita Marie: Oh, yeah. All they want to do is please me. So, you know, I like that. Um, so, but I do like cats too, actually. I've kind of, I also like cats. I'm just like an animal person, but I'm more of a dog person, I think. Um, but, Yeah, so that's one of the things that we decided to do with the money that we made on OnlyFans is we purchased a piece of property in, um, Colorado, and it's called Dog Heaven, LLC, and yeah, so we decided, you know what, um, if I'm going to make a lot of money, I want to help, you know, Animals and I want to help animals that would have been euthanized because, uh, there's such a huge problem in the U.

S. with, um, animals not being adopted. Um, and so for multiple reasons are not adopted. And so, um, we, we can't obviously save all of the animals, but we want to be able to take in, um, some cats, dogs, and horses that would have been euthanized that are considered maybe unadoptable for whatever reason that would have been maybe sent back to the rescue or.

You know, maybe had, um, behavioral issues, so they weren't going to be adopted, something like that.

Rob Valincius: There's poor babies.

Nita Marie: I know! It is

Rob Valincius: every dog's a puppy to me. Every dog,

Nita Marie: I

Rob Valincius: same thing with the wifey. Like, we see a dog and we're like, look at that puppy. Like, it's 15 years old. It's a puppy. Okay? All dogs are puppies.

Nita Marie: Yeah. And it's, it's crazy to me how many, I mean, the shelters are all full, you know, it's like, and unfortunately if a dog has any kind of behavioral issue, um, they're not going to be adopted. Like we went up to a no kill shelter that's up by where we are. And, you know, they had probably a good, like eight dogs that, um, had to have the sign on their kennel that said, like, Uh, be, be careful or, you know, don't touch whatever, right.

Because that's a little bit of aggression. Now, I know that there's some dogs that are dangerous. I totally get that, but there's a large majority of dogs that are just showing aggression because they're scared. And because if you think about it, if they've been like in a different environment, because they were left by their owner and they aren't, those dogs, unfortunately, could be deemed unadoptable because if someone's going to adopt a dog, they're most likely not going to adopt a dog that could possibly bite them.

Rob Valincius: Yeah.

Nita Marie: You know what I mean? So those, those dogs are a lot of the type of dogs that we've taken.

Rob Valincius: That's a shame. And I get it. Um, so like, our experience, Um, we actually originally wanted to adopt. So, we um, We wanted to, I think it was like a pet, Um, and they had just gotten in some puppies from like North Carolina or something. And, uh, we fell in love with this. It was like a, a Yorkie Dachshund mix. It was the cutest fucking puppy ever.

We fell in love with it. We were younger. Uh, we're like, let's do it. And so we adopted her. Um, they were doing her, um, spay.

Nita Marie: Uh huh.

Rob Valincius: know, because they, they said, you know, obviously they have to spay and put in the microchip before she leaves and They called us said hey everything went through she's good ten minutes later.

They called to say I'm so sorry But she had a seizure and she died I think she was allergic to the anesthesia

Nita Marie: no!

Rob Valincius: it was there It was like Thanksgiving, we

Nita Marie: Oh! Oh! Oh!

Rob Valincius: found, we have Brussels Griffins. So she found our dogs on Instagram.

And, uh, I wanted to surprise her for Valentine's Day. So I actually found a breeder that, uh, Just did Brussels Griffins, um, that was about an hour from us, and, uh, that's where we got Morgan, and she was the, the runt of the litter,

Nita Marie: Uh huh.

Rob Valincius: and she was, she's got enough attitude, uh, but she's smart as fuck,

Nita Marie: Uh huh.

Rob Valincius: enough attitude for anyone on the planet, uh, we love her to death, but she's like my fiance's shadow, like,

Nita Marie: yeah, yeah,

Rob Valincius: They're, they're the same being at this point.

Uh, and then the second litter, which was the same parents. So their brother and sister one year apart, I wanted the biggest dog. So we got her brother captain. So captain Morgan, obviously, you know, I love booze. Um, he is, it's so funny. I tell the story of the time, but when, uh, we got, we get to see them at like four or five weeks when they're, when they just opened their eyes

Nita Marie: Uh

Rob Valincius: then at the eight week mark, when we pick them up and.

He was so funny, and when we first saw him the wifey was like, I like him, but he doesn't really give any kisses and You know she wanted some kisses, and I swear to God. He must have heard her fucking say that this man He will give he will literally lick your face. We caught we said that he rapes you

Nita Marie: Yeah, yeah, yeah. He licked you out.

Rob Valincius: will He will fucking lick your face for days.

Like I think if we died in here, he would lick our face until our fucking skin falls off. He is, but he's like, there's, there's no aggression in him. He's never like outside of him beating him and his sister fight all the time. And. He's 15 pounds bigger than her, and she'll beat the shit out of him.

Nita Marie: yeah, oh

Rob Valincius: she humps him to show dominance, you know.

Maybe if we did that in the real world a little bit more, uh, it'd be even more hilarious. But, um, they're just, they're so much fun, and, uh, I love him to death. But he's like, the sweetest fucking thing on the planet. Like, he has no aggression at all. Even when you're yelled at him, he's wha he's dumb as shit.

I love him to death. He's dumb as shit. She's the smart one, and I think sometimes that's why she gets, she like, has this like, resting bitch face sometimes because she knows that there's like, you know, there's, she loves outside, she loves the sun, she's just like her mom, you know. Her mom doesn't have the resting bitch face thing, but, um, you know, they're just, ah, it's so funny how they are, and he's like obsessed with me, so he's probably laying down here with me, and uh, and uh, Morgan's up there with her mom, but. It's it's so weird and like if we could have a I would have a million dogs I don't care if they're if they're dangerous

Nita Marie: Yeah. Haha.

Rob Valincius: I think I think most of them get a bad rap, especially if you're talking about like pit bulls

Nita Marie: be out of pit bulls. Yeah. Well, and that's one of the dogs we have up there as a pit bull. And he, um, did have a bite history because he was food aggressive and ended up biting like the mother in law. And, uh, she was like, okay, you've got to get rid of the dog. Like, if I'm going to live with you, you've got to get rid of the dog.

So he has only bitten someone twice, but it wasn't even that bad. Right. I don't think it's that bad because that's who I am, but it was, I know there could be really bad. Dog bites. I know that, right? But this was just like a little nick on her hand, but she was scared. And so, uh, they called around to like every shelter, and nobody would take him because he's a pit bull and had a bite history, right?

So literally, like, they called shelters throughout the United States. And nobody would take him. And this was when we were just starting to open the sanctuary, and so we're like, We'll take him. Of course, like, we'll take him. So, but, I mean, he hasn't had any issues up there. I mean, he's now, like, probably the least aggressive dog we have up there.

He, um, is now, like, so sweet, and so loved on, and hasn't had any, like, issues or incidences or anything. So, I don't know. I just think a lot of it has to do with how they're trained and the environment they're in.

Rob Valincius: the environment plays such a big part and I think that's like it's not just dogs, right? It's people too Um, you know, and I think we're in, uh, innately born pure, you know, and I think your environment is what kind of shapes you and I always see this, you know, my dad's going through a tough time and I always tell people, uh, him included, like what makes us human is how you come out of the other side of an issue or a downturn or some fucked up shit.

Everyone has fucked up shit happened to you. Um, but it's. Who you are is what you come out after all of those things. Um, and I think, I think that's the kind of goes hand in hand with, with also animals. Um, you know, not, I think not every animal is innately bad. I mean, they're just put into shitty situations, but if you could put them into a sanctuary where they can run around and they have love and, uh, and kindness, I, I think that's, um, it's kind of the same thing with people

Nita Marie: yes, it is. I totally agree, and I think that You know, if you look at like the people that are in jail and stuff like that, there's definitely some people that are mentally crazy. Like I think that that's the difference between humans and animals is most animals, I don't have like these mental diseases that humans have, right?

Like humans have like bipolar, manic depression, split personalities, like just all these things that we can have because our brain is like so unique. But dogs usually, it's just, you know, have their dog brain.

Rob Valincius: Yeah.

Nita Marie: not getting bipolar. They're not getting, you know, they might have some anxiety, right. But they're not getting like split personalities.

Um, it's really just like you learn to train them and they're fine, but it's like humans, I think are scarier than any animal would ever be because humans are a lot harder.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, you never know what's going on in, in, look, I, I have bipolar in my family. Not, it's, it's actually not really in my family. It's my, my, uh, family's married

Nita Marie: Uh huh.

Rob Valincius: Um, and I gotta say, man, bipolar is some crazy shit. Like, um.

Nita Marie: know. Yeah.

Rob Valincius: You, you, you can't control it. It's, it's there.

You can take as much fucking medicine as you want. Um, you know, but sometimes they just stop taking their meds because

Nita Marie: Well, yeah, because I think they don't need it or they think that it's, you know, affecting their personality, stuff like that, you know? So it's like, yeah. So I mean, humans, to me, like, are just. way scarier and more unpredictable than any, any aggressive dog would ever be in my mind.

Rob Valincius: I always tell people and they laugh, but I'm like, when I watch a movie, I could see a hundred people murdered. The moment a dog is murdered, I'm out. Me and the wife are like, nah. Nah, fuck this movie. We're done.

Nita Marie: terrible movie. I'm not watching that movie again.

Rob Valincius: We actually just watched a movie if, if, um, it's, it's a Spanish dubbed movie. Um, uh, the wife he loves, uh, Anthony Jeselnik, he's a comedian. I don't know if you've ever heard of him. Uh, he's, he's like big into like, like dead baby jokes.

Nita Marie: Okay.

Rob Valincius: Um, and it's called the coffee table and it's a wild fucking movie because, and you'll, you know, if you watch it basically right at the beginning, this guy is buying a coffee table with like naked women.

Nita Marie: Oh my

Rob Valincius: And his wife told him no, and they have a newborn baby, and then she leaves to go get them food, and like, he falls, and the baby dies on the coffee table. And the head is chopped off, and it's the whole movie is him like, pretending like the baby isn't dead when he knows the baby's dead. It's it's a

Nita Marie: Oh my

Rob Valincius: we just watched it this weekend.

Yeah, and I'm like, I'm totally fine with it, but if it was a puppy, I I would have turned it off instantly. I would have been done, and I'm like, it's so fucked up.

Nita Marie: It is! It is so messed up, but a lot of people are like that. I saw a meme on Facebook one time of a guy holding up a sign saying, I'm not watching the movie if the dog dies! So, it's true.

Rob Valincius: So, so let's end on this. Alright, uh, we'll end on a, on a fun note. Instead of, uh, me talking about dead babies. Um, give, let's, let's give some, uh, men and women that, that listening to this show, give me some fun facts about orgasms. You got anything right on the top of your head? I saw your website and I know you have some, some fun

Nita Marie: yeah. Well, I do have some fun facts for women about orgasms. So it does actually make you smarter because when you have an orgasm, it increases the blood flow to your brain. And so it does actually make you smarter when you have more orgasms. Um, it also, yeah, it also reduces, um, your chance of, cancer because every time you have an orgasm and you have the increase of blood flow, it helps to get rid of toxins and also, uh, get rid of, uh, you know, anything that could possibly cause cancer.

Um, but then that's also why it helps to reduce age because of, uh, the blood flow going through your skin. So one of the big things with, um, orgasms is increasing the blood flow through your skin. And then that increases collagen. So those are the top three right now I can think of.

Rob Valincius: Look at, uh, I can't wait to post this on fuckin YouTube. You just have dogs everywhere. I'm just all like, alright, mom. You said one hour, it's an hour and two minutes. Let's, let's go, we're done with this. Uh, no, look, it,

Nita Marie: they're done with me not paying attention to them.

Rob Valincius: It was, uh, it was a pleasure having you on. Can you please tell everybody, uh, you know, where can they find your content, your website, and, um, anything you want to leave us with before, uh, we stop.

Nita Marie: Yes. So you can go to my website at ww dot netta, do marie.com or you can go to my Instagram Love need to Marie. And it's NITA,

Rob Valincius: Yeah, your Instagram's cool, man. It's fun. It's fun. It's like, every time I

Nita Marie: lot of my friends.

Rob Valincius: Yeah, every time I turn it on, I'm like, Alright, I should probably not watch this at work. I should, uh, probably put this, uh,

Nita Marie: are at work.

Rob Valincius: Uh, no, it's, it's fun. Um So my podcast, uh, it's drink o'clock pod on all socials. Um, and you can find me anywhere you listen to podcasts.

It's just drink o'clock and my website is drink o'clock. beer. Um, this website or this, this episode will probably be up in a couple of days, probably, probably

Nita Marie: Awesome.

Rob Valincius: ish, something like that. Um, but look, it was a pleasure having you on, um, keep doing what you're doing. Uh, I love that you are empowering women and I think we need more of it.

Nita Marie: Thank you. I'm excited to do more of it. So I appreciate you having me on. I've loved getting to know you.

Rob Valincius: Awesome! Same here. Well, like, you have a great evening, a great Memorial Day, and, uh, well, I'll talk to you soon.

Nita Marie: Okay. Thank you.

Rob Valincius: Thank you.

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